How to cope when nothing seems to be working!
Something I get asked often by new parents is how to cope with a new baby when everyone is exhausted and crying. This is a normal situation for most new parents at some stage.
The good news is it doesn’t last long and soon you will have things down pat.
Take comfort in the knowledge that it is almost a rite of passage as a new parent. You are not the only one to have felt like this.
It’s a fact- most new parents feel overwhelmed and lost when going home for the first time with their new baby.
And to make matters worse, they feel an overwhelming pressure to be perfect parents and get it “right”. This pressure will more than likely come up for you a number of times at different times as your baby grows. Remember it is all normal and working out what works for you is the key. Here is our first tips to help you stay calm and cope with those really difficult times. The next ones will follow over the next few weeks.
Here is the first tip to help you when things just don’t seem to be going your way.
1. Remember your self care- have time out just for you.
This is my number one rule – not even a tip, for new parents particularly but important no matter who you are.
Remember that you are a person too. Before you became a parent you had interests and hobbies. You did things just for yourself. It is healthy for everyone if you continue to do something for just yourself regularly. A baby is a 24 hour a day job. Imagine if you had to perform in your job 24 hours a day , 7 days a week, year in , year out. You would be exhausted and probably not very effective at your job.
You will be a better parent if you take time out for yourself regularly. It may not be the same activities or the same amount of time that you spend on your activities as before you became a parent.
It is still important however that you do it. Even if it is only 5 mins a day, half an hour a week or once a month. It may be going for a walk around the block, going window shopping, having a coffee with a friend, reading a book from the library for 15 mins or just having a relaxing bath.
You will be a better more effective parent if you have time out from your baby and get some me time. You will probably enjoy your baby even more too and be able to think more clearly about what your baby needs from you and respond more calmly and appropriately.
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