Help with sleeping- a case study

Help with sleeping - a case study

 

Here is another story of a happy customer who asked me for help with sleeping and their baby.

 Harriet is 7 weeks. She is breastfed and feeds whenever she desires. Her mum is happy with this.  Harriet also sleeps fairly well and her mum helps her with this most times.  On the rare occasion she will go to sleep on her own and sleep for a up to 2-3 hours.  At night, she wakes every 2-3 hours for a feed.

Lack of sleep

While Harriet’s mum is happy to do this and to do whatever Harriets requires from her, she is feeling like she is running out of energy and is questioning how long she can continue with this practice and especially her own lack of sleep.  Harriet’s mum is thinking that she will grow out of it one day and not need help with sleeping any more. This may be the case and while there is no problem for mum or bub there is no problem. Harriet’s mum is thinking ahead and looking for ideas to avoid problems later.

Healthy attachment

Harriet’s dad  works long hours  and is often away with work for days at a time.  Their extended family live overseas and all their friends also have young babies so are limited in how much help they can offer.

Harriet’s mum and I had a long discussion about what she is doing now, the benefits and limitations and how Harriet’s mum feels about all this.  She has read widely in her pregnancy and is committed to parenting their child in a calm, nurturing and loving household. Her goal is to build a strong and healthy attachment with Harriet. She is concerned that if Harriet does not need her for help with sleeping that this somehow interferes with her attachment and that the bonds will not be strong.

Babies are clever

We discussed babies’ abilities, how they are programmed, their needs and wants. We discussed how sleep works as well - cues, cycles, needs and associations. We also discussed the partnership between mothers and babies and then with fathers how that works as well. We discussed that mothers also have needs and that to give Harriet the very best it is important to recognise how she is feeling, acknowledge it and work how to balance her needs with Harriets’,  remembering that the needs of both are as important.

Sleep cues

Harriet kindly displayed sleep cues and also her ability to self settle very happily while I was there which gave her mum confidence and belief that self settling is not necessarily a negative for her or Harriet.  Mum had the opportunity to recognise Harriet’s cues with my guidance and this helped her feel more confident about what Harriet really needed not what Mum thought she needed.

Sleep in the bigger picture

With more understanding of the bigger picture and respect  for everybody, Harriet’s mum is feeling more in tune with her needs and is working towards practices that support both of them. Harriet is now self settling daily. Harriet’s mum helps her when necessary but also gives her the opportunity to settle for sleep on her own.  She is feeding a lot better simply because she is more rested and with better feeding, comes better sleep- it is a cycle that feeds on itself. Night time has been Harriet’s mums biggest surprise.  Harriet now only wakes once a night for a feed and easily goes back to sleep, waking.

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