Self Settling- What it is, what it isn't and more.

Self Settling- What it is, what it isn't and more.

Are you feeling guilty about teaching your little one to self settle? 

Perhaps you are feeling confused and confounded by all the talk about  self settling, how to do it and what not to do , how to not harm your little one while doing it. 

Are you feeling conflicted over why don't you want to cuddle your baby?

For or against self settling?

Self settling has long been a topic that has people swear by it and those who really are not a fan of it.  There are arguments for and against everything.  For example,  some say give kiwifruit for first foods.  Others say don't give kiwifruit as first foods.  Both statements are right.  Kiwifruit will agree with some and not others.  So obviously those it doesn't agree with, shouldn't have it.  Those that it does agree with can have it.

Self Settling is...

Self settling is when your baby goes to sleep most times on their own without needing you to do anything for them and without needing any other props to go to sleep such as a dummy.  Most babies can self settle at times and there certainly are certain circumstances that makes self settling more likely.  Things such as catching early tired signs and giving an environment that is more conducive to sleep. Your baby’s personality  is another factor in self settling. Some babies need to have the security of a parent for longer than others.

Find the right way for you

As with most things, it is individual. I think if it is something that seems to resonate with you then perhaps it will suit.  It is worth investigating.  Even for peace of mind.

Read widely, ask people who know, talk with your immediate circle of peers and those you trust in advice about caring for your little one.

As with everything particularly now with information sharing so frequent and world wide, trying to find your way through can be really difficult.

If you decide it is not for you that is fine. Remember there is not one right way.  Just the right way for you.

If not- continue doing what you are doing for as long as it suits.

Decide for yourself whether self settling is something that suits your family.  Remember we all have different backgrounds, personalities, experiences, values and histories. Please be mindful that we are all doing our very best with what we have and know.